I just got two questions about this topic and I like the way this one was phrased far better, so I’ll answer them both here. (The other one was honestly a bit harsh and attacking, both assuming I was the one that broke things off and asking how I am “so okay” post-breakup, despite asking or knowing how I am doing.) I haven’t talked about it much here because I know both my exes, along with a lot of people from my person life, know about and thus can read this blog, meaning I am not overly inclined to share everything breakup-related here, even though this is a deeply personal blog about a deeply personal topic.
To answer though, it’s definitely been a huge adjustment and life change overall and is/will require a rebuilding process. It’s extremely hard to recreate your life apart from someone you were building a life with, but the options in a situation like this are to fall apart or start building something new, and I’ve chosen the latter route. I am thankful to have deeply fulfilling components of my life, mainly my job and friendships, and that is enough to keep me going even during the roughest of times (and trust me, they exist). I also lost my biggest supporter and my rock, so I’ve had to dig deep inside myself for a lot of strength and resilience to get through those times. Despite the hard parts though, I can say that I am happy on the whole, that I know this is the right path for me (because I truly need to dedicate time and energy right now to finding myself), and that I have complete faith that life will take me in the exact direction I need to be going.
I hope that answered your questions and quells the curiosity and concern!